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| Insecure is one of the reasons for the failure of a career. (Photo: Istimewa) |
As information technology develops, now the expression space is no longer limited. Unfortunately, this has a negative effect, including comparing yourself with others. So that makes sense of inferiority and insecurity arises. This topic was discussed in UMM Talks Episode 22 with the theme "Evil Insecure for your future career development" with Devina Andiany, M.Psi, a psychologist at the University of Muhammadiyah Malang (UMM). This event was aired on February 10 on the UMM Campus YouTube platform.
Devina, her nickname, explained that there are three main causes why people feel insecure. First is the experience when they got dumped, which affects the reduced confidence over time. Second, social conditions or daily environment continue to put high pressure. Then the third comes from yourself, the feeling of an excessive perfectionist.
"That three factors are the most commonly experienced by young people today. Moreover, coupled with the mind comparing themselves with the achievement of others. They will find it difficult to develop themselves because of excessive anxiety, " said her.
Specifically, she explained that environmental factors, especially families, can be two blades. Families can be a support system or source of pressure for individuals. The family should be a place to go home for their children, both in a difficult and happy condition. The family must also be a place where family members can tell stories, especially children.
Unfortunately, not all children are reluctant to go home because when they go home, they get pressured, like the words that compare the child with others. Devina said, basically insecure is normal when looking at the condition of others. Only sometimes seen as negative as long as it is not excessive and becomes a matter of self-evaluation to become a better person.
The woman, a lecturer in UMM psychology, explained that controlling the sense of insecurity can start from yourself. That is because the one that can change the negative sense to positive things is ourselves. "We can also help insecure people by listening to complaints and all the stories that friends want to convey. Although it is trivial, it can help them release excessive anxiety, " she said. (put/haq/wil)
