Zulfikar Yusuf, M.Pd.I. (Photo: Special). |
Fasting month is a moment filled with goodness. Including the goodness to strengthen the relationship between the two. Zulfikar Yusuf, M.Pd.I., a lecturer in the Islamic Religious Education study program at the University of Muhammadiyah Malang (UMM), explained that the purpose of fasting is to increase one's piety.
Piety is defined as doing Allah's commands and avoiding Allah's prohibitions. In Islam, worship is not only personal but also social. Therefore, all activities during Ramadan and afterwards are important to improve social spirituality. One of them is practicing both personal and social aspects during the holy month.
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"Actually, silaturahmi is not limited to Ramadan. Especially considering that if someone is experiencing peak emotions, it is prohibited to hold it for more than three days. Therefore, if there is a misunderstanding between people, it should be resolved immediately," he explained.
In Islam, ending or cutting off a relationship is a very serious act. Islam teaches humans to always give others the opportunity to improve themselves. Allah SWT is the Most Forgiving and Merciful, and we as the worshipers should also follow His lead.
"The main thing that needs to be done is to improve personal quality and maturity in spiritual and individual aspects. Having this maturity will help to prevent hatred and misunderstanding. Efforts need to be made to get to know one another. It is not just about names and origins but also understanding the character of others. By knowing this, the potential for estrangement will be reduced because we understand each other," he explained.
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Furthermore, Zulfikar said that one of the important steps in repairing a fractured relationship is to apologize and offer a sincere apology. When apologizing, it is important to speak honestly and sincerely. Explain openly what we have done that caused the rift in the relationship. After that, offer a solution to repair the relationship.
"Differences are inevitable in society, family, and even in ourselves. But every difference needs to be dealt with properly. So I suggest, within the framework of the theory of tazkiyyatun Nafs, or the theory of soul cleansing. Hatred comes from what one sees and thinks. The more negative things one sees, the more it will affect what one thinks. What is thought will have an impact on the heart. If what comes in is negative, then the mind and heart will become tainted. But if what comes in is positive, then the heart will be enlightened and clean," he said.
In repairing relationships, good communication is key. Listen attentively, convey feelings honestly and gently, and avoid unnecessary conflict. Repairing broken relationships brings great rewards and blessings in Ramadan, bringing inner peace, true happiness, and closeness to Allah. (bal/wil/put)